We have all had that one special woman in our lives. The one with the sweet personality, the really nice hair and the perfect face. She is the one who dates the more “adept” fellows. So, the question is: how do you get her to like YOU?
The short answer is that you become an alpha male, and the longer answer is found in the book profiled on the following How To Become An Alpha Male review page.
For now, let’s concentrate on what can be conveyed about this process in the space of a single page.
While men are primarily attracted to a woman because of the way she looks, women are attracted to men because of their inner qualities. The perfect man, for them, is the alpha male who has confidence in himself and who is not afraid to take the lead to get what he wants out of life.
Generally, what this means is that the best way to get a woman to like you is to make her feel like she has EARNED you.
This works because to get a woman to really develop an interest in you, you need to exhibit a mindset of high value. Never appeal to her from a position of neediness.
So the best way to think about approaching any one particular woman requires a mindset that includes:
1. Nonchalance.
2. Disregard for the outcome of whether or not she decides she likes you. (By which I mean, if she likes you, great, but if not, there are always other women out there who are just as great as she is.)
The main point to understand here is that a girl should never be a challenge for you. Instead you need to be a challenge for her.
Besides placing a high value on yourself, you need to also eliminate any neediness on your part by cultivating your social network. Make friends with as many women as you can. (Fortunately, girls are very easy to make friends with.)
Also, attempt to date as many women as you can. Do not limit yourself by only dating “that one special girl.”
Why? Because the last thing you want to be going through your mind when you are around that special girl is the thought that, “God, I MUST have her! She’s absolutely unique!” Having a surplus of women in your life will ensure you avoid thinking this way.
Besides, when a woman notices that other women are attracted to you, she will also experience attraction. Psychologically, this is known as the phenomenon of “social proof” and it is much more powerful in women than men.
Have you ever seen the way your female friends drool over some guy in the bar who has got four women at his table? That is social proof in action.
By the way, it is all right to think that a girl is beautiful and to feel strong emotions for her.
Here is the important thing though – you always need to remind yourself that there are LOTS of other women out there, many of whom who are just as wonderful as this girl you really like.
If you begin to convince yourself that any girl is totally unique, that gives her total power over you, and, ironically, she will lose any attraction she has for you.
So, you are free to believe that a woman is amazing. Simply remember that many other girls are amazing too. This way you will not become needy.
So, the moral of the story is this: you should place a high value on yourself, you should make her earn your attention, and you should spend time with as many girls as you can. Use these three essential techniques for how to get a girl to like you and you will see amazing results very shortly.
If you need more details on the tactics suggested here, check out the dating books, where you will find reviews of the top rated relationship books for men.
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