We have all had that one special woman in our lives. The one with the sweet personality, the really nice hair and the perfect face. She is the one who dates the more “adept” fellows. So, the question is: how do you get her to like YOU?
The short answer is that you become an alpha male, and the longer answer is found in the book profiled on the following How To Become An Alpha Male review page.
For now, let’s concentrate on what can be conveyed about this process in the space of a single page.
While men are primarily attracted to a woman because of the way she looks, women are attracted to men because of their inner qualities. The perfect man, for them, is the alpha male who has confidence in himself and who is not afraid to take the lead to get what he wants out of life.
Generally, what this means is that the best way to get a woman to like you is to make her feel like she has EARNED you.
This works because to get a woman to really develop an interest in you, you need to exhibit a mindset of high value. Never appeal to her from a position of neediness.
So the best way to think about approaching any one particular woman requires a mindset that includes:
1. Nonchalance.
2. Disregard for the outcome of whether or not she decides she likes you. (By which I mean, if she likes you, great, but if not, there are always other women out there who are just as great as she is.)
The main point to understand here is that a girl should never be a challenge for you. Instead you need to be a challenge for her.
Besides placing a high value on yourself, you need to also eliminate any neediness on your part by cultivating your social network. Make friends with as many women as you can. (Fortunately, girls are very easy to make friends with.)
Also, attempt to date as many women as you can. Do not limit yourself by only dating “that one special girl.”
Why? Because the last thing you want to be going through your mind when you are around that special girl is the thought that, “God, I MUST have her! She’s absolutely unique!” Having a surplus of women in your life will ensure you avoid thinking this way.
Besides, when a woman notices that other women are attracted to you, she will also experience attraction. Psychologically, this is known as the phenomenon of “social proof” and it is much more powerful in women than men.
Have you ever seen the way your female friends drool over some guy in the bar who has got four women at his table? That is social proof in action.
By the way, it is all right to think that a girl is beautiful and to feel strong emotions for her.
Here is the important thing though – you always need to remind yourself that there are LOTS of other women out there, many of whom who are just as wonderful as this girl you really like.
If you begin to convince yourself that any girl is totally unique, that gives her total power over you, and, ironically, she will lose any attraction she has for you.
So, you are free to believe that a woman is amazing. Simply remember that many other girls are amazing too. This way you will not become needy.
So, the moral of the story is this: you should place a high value on yourself, you should make her earn your attention, and you should spend time with as many girls as you can. Use these three essential techniques for how to get a girl to like you and you will see amazing results very shortly.
If you need more details on the tactics suggested here, check out the dating books, where you will find reviews of the top rated relationship books for men.
Relationship books for men are not always easy to read. Some of them are put together by guys who should not be allowed to get within ten feet of a keyboard. Almost half of the dating books for men that I have read have fallen into this category. To save you hours, money, and the frustration of realizing that you have made a bad choice in your selection of a dating advice guru, I am going to point you towards those books worthy of your consideration.
In particular, I am going to concentrate on just two relationship books for guys. If you elect to read either of these books you will discover a great deal about the nature of women, your relationship to them in the grand scheme of things, and how you can significantly increase your prospects of landing the girl of your dreams.
Now, I will admit that this sounds like a lofty goal. But consider the reality that most guys face when they begin their dating attempts in earnest. To start with, none of us guys are given the user manual for women. To us, they might as well be alien invaders for all that we understand about how they think and the things they do.
To make the situation even tougher on ourselves, what we do learn about women through trial and error, we do not share with one another. Girls do just the opposite. They make it their duty to exchange stories with other women and build up some semblance of how the male animal reacts to certain stimuli.
Not us, we take our suffering in silence and wonder what the heck is wrong with our technique. If failure with women seems to be the norm for you, you are hardly alone. Ninety percent of all the other guys out there are no better off than you are. The other ten percent, the ones who are having all the fun, well there is not a whole lot of reason for them to clue you into what you are doing wrong that is driving the women in their direction.
Yes, there are some amazing little secrets about women that a few men have divined by sheer luck, or through the sheer audacity of experimenting with methods that most guys would never be bold enough to try in a thousand years.
Fortunately, two of these guys have taken it upon themselves to educate the rest of us about what it is that they have been doing right when it comes to woman. What makes this pair stand out from the other dating gurus who clutter up the mens dating and seduction niche is that these two guys are very smart, they write with clarity, and they hit the nail on the head when it comes to trying to successfully understand the motivations of the women we would try to make our own.
The first of these authors is John Alexander, whose book you can learn more about on my How To Become An Alpha Male review page. John’s point of view is that it is useless to pursue women, and instead what a man should do is focus on himself, and learn how to become an alpha male – the kind of guy that other guys automatically look up to and respect. If you can win over the guys, says John, the women tend to follow with no extra effort on your part. How you do that – and turn yourself into an alpha male is, of course, the topic of his book.
John’s philosophy is appealing, especially if you regard yourself as the kind of guy who has tried hard to be appealing to women but for whom success just seems to keep alluding you. As you will discover in his book, alpha males do not attempt to be appealing to anyone other than themselves, but in a way that naturally attracts the opposite sex.
The second writer is Michael Pilinski, whose book you can learn more about on my Without Embarrassment page. Michael differs from John in two ways. He is a little more the thinking man’s version of the dating guru, and he is discernibly more frustrated with all the learning experiences that he has been forced to go through in order to arrive at the point where he is now. His hard won successes with women did not come without battle scars, and he is not afraid to show them, because he understands that there are millions of men like him across the world that have run into all the emotional hardships that he has experienced when dealing with the seemingly cruel logic that women use to decide whether to admit a man into their world.
Well, Michael has figured out the secret female protocols, and he is spilling the beans, because he does not feel all guys need suffer in the way that he has. The bottom line is that if you feel cursed when it comes to women, Michael Pilinski is the guy to read. Get yourself a copy of his book Without Embarrassment and be prepared to be blown away by the revelations that this guy has to make. You may never look at another women in quite the same way again!
So there you have it – two excellent mens dating and relationship titles to choose from. If you want a straightforward and mellow approach to conquering the hearts and minds of women you will want to go with John Alexander. If you think your issues with women run a little deeper, and that you may need to psychoanalyze yourself to get at the root of your problems, then Michael Pilinski is your man. But regardless of your decision, you really cannot go wrong if you select either of these books on dating.
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